tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post6885355247423839327..comments2024-02-06T08:43:35.333+01:00Comments on Sea Legs Girl: Stepmom is an ugly wordsea legs girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14782712411873234071noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-67500080021381759302008-10-03T09:56:00.000+02:002008-10-03T09:56:00.000+02:00It's funny, because I gave birth to my daughter an...It's funny, because I gave birth to my daughter and she sometimes talks that way to me!!! And she's not quite five yet! (Man, I'm in for it with her.) Of course it's not acceptable, but it's not just step-kids who get mouthy.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there! You are doing a great job!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01506473191113043504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-57105365058569014352008-10-03T06:30:00.000+02:002008-10-03T06:30:00.000+02:00As someone who grew up in a "modern" family where ...As someone who grew up in a "modern" family where not all parents were natural parents, be kind to yourself. You're doing everything you can. Lots of the issues your stepkids have are not actually with you, you're just a convenient vehicle for them to express their own fear about change. Deep breath -- you're the grownup -- let it wash over you. Being hurtful to you is a way for your stepD to exercise power within circumstances over which she has no control, and within which she probably has very complicated emotions. In 15 years, you'll all laugh together over this era. Doesn't make it easier now, but be strong.green lighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11710702006690038659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-84950942596108556342008-10-02T04:39:00.000+02:002008-10-02T04:39:00.000+02:00I would offer that it is the separation coming, an...I would offer that it is the separation coming, and that's why, like you're taking daddy away all by yourself. Kids do that.<BR/>What reminds me that I just bought a ticket to meet my future step-son i a month, and scared out of my mind. I never thought I'd be afraid to meet a kid, I am, after all, a pediatrician by heart, not only by training. What if he hates me? He just learned I exist, and not even in full details...and I won't be there fully to try and make a connection till, well, for a while.<BR/>Anyhow, hang in there. Kids are so rude and selfish at times. My older, who always responded to my emails (since he left) and never to his dad, last week switched preferences. What happened there?Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00493291972954387932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-1480646125255995302008-10-02T03:01:00.000+02:002008-10-02T03:01:00.000+02:00From one SM to another. Just hug them as muh as yo...From one SM to another. Just hug them as muh as you can, try not give advice not unless they ask and tell them you love them. Try not to offer to much of yourself, they have someone they consider their M without the S. You have so much to give your very own newborn. Nuture your child time is short, your SC will always remember the hugs and the love if you dont give the advice. They will like to hold on to something negative. Keep in mind life dont stay the same, time with them will go faster than a 5k.Pamela Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11500871825876039511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-31270933313471404112008-10-02T02:33:00.000+02:002008-10-02T02:33:00.000+02:00SLG,I'm sorry. That post made me so sad. I agree w...SLG,<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry. That post made me so sad. I agree with roselanwa about even our own children being sassy at times but I think it's much harder to deal with when the kids aren't the ones you pushed out. It almost seems to hurt more because you just want them to love you. You're strong. We're thinking about you and praying for the best.Abbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03709207120243840223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-84206281366670355332008-10-02T00:34:00.000+02:002008-10-02T00:34:00.000+02:00Ok to be honest, I followed the link from Boobs In...Ok to be honest, I followed the link from Boobs Injuries and Dr. Pepper so i'm a random girl that randomly reads a random blog that you happen to randomly read and...yea. XD *fails at networking* <BR/><BR/>Hey, i just started reading your blog, and i wanted to say kudos for being a cool stepmom.Nikkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08822298703278374752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-27751992594546323402008-10-01T23:13:00.000+02:002008-10-01T23:13:00.000+02:00Hi Sealegs,Sorry about my deleted post; still tryi...Hi Sealegs,<BR/>Sorry about my deleted post; still trying to figure this out ... duh. I wanted to chime in to perhaps offer you some comfort. Even when you labored 24+ hours to push out your beautiful baby girl, they still sometimes tell you "you're not doing it right!" I've learned to deal with occasional sassiness, usually with a firm but gentle, "You may not speak to me like that." And, sometimes, you do have to give them the brush and say, "That's fine. You are free to do your own hair." <BR/>Your stepdaughter is likely feeling a lot of anxiety over the move and all the changes over the past year and a half. Kids process things differently. Continue to be patient and loving as you have been and everything will be fine.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com