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ENTER !!![/url][/color]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-41514036964170841132010-08-18T06:46:03.996+02:002010-08-18T06:46:03.996+02:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-31817631299443687632010-08-11T08:58:19.473+02:002010-08-11T08:58:19.473+02:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-9728328700075637762010-08-07T05:16:08.135+02:002010-08-07T05:16:08.135+02:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-67383775220643961732010-06-17T19:30:24.887+02:002010-06-17T19:30:24.887+02:00SLG - yes you're right on not losing the IT of...SLG - yes you're right on not losing the IT of a relationship. I just find IT comes up in more unexpected and less frequent moments than the initial "every moment is an IT moment" phase - which somehow makes it more special when you realise its happening...everyone interprets romance differently though. For me it's not flowers, it's when say I get up in the morning to find a menu with a 3 course meal and 2 options for each course on the counter - with Brett to cook my selections on our next meal together...that sort of unexpected thing.cherellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13643258879501877022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-43923714432125968202010-06-17T18:09:18.633+02:002010-06-17T18:09:18.633+02:00Nobody's talking about sitting all day and sta...Nobody's talking about sitting all day and starring. Or, for that matter, starring at all. It was used as a question of happiness. Lets not get carried away with whether or not starring is a good thing for the partnership (btw, we have a saying: love is not starring at each other, but rather in the same direction. So, here:)) I am sure SLG wrote all this not to point out how much or how little they gaze, but just shared the every-day life's thoughts. She truly does use this blog as a diary. Emotions came overwhelming - write it out. Fat ideas popped - here. Intervals get her excited - we have to read all about it:)Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00493291972954387932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-63187292675126041822010-06-17T16:44:08.190+02:002010-06-17T16:44:08.190+02:00Just because you don't sit around all day and ...Just because you don't sit around all day and stare at each other doesn't mean the romance is gone or that your marriage is just friendship. It's not black and white. It doesn't mean you don't sometimes stare at each other. I don't think anyone was saying that. I certainly wasn't. But this idea that you should spend just as much time consumed by self-absorbed infatuation as in the very beginning just seems unrealistic. Of course what do I know, I'm just in a terrific marriage with my partner of 11 years :pDannihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02201053516148787578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-82965369548425300332010-06-17T16:33:45.507+02:002010-06-17T16:33:45.507+02:00Danni, you seem like a craky old hag, but for enti...Danni, you seem like a craky old hag, but for entirely different reasons ;).<br /><br />Well I hear what you guys are saying about the naive love in the beginning. But I am mostly in Olga's camp here. Maybe I also have read too many romantic Russian novels (can one read too many?). But I think the moment one changes the dynamic of a marriage to "now we are friends" is the moment it is not a marriage anymore and then, as Olga said, you've lost IT, and you seek IT elsewhere. So yes, romance, passion, gazing lovingly: if you give up on them, I think you give up on your marriage.<br /><br />"But we're all different, and that's cool. It just so happens I'm always right" - modified quote from step-daughter Natali.sea legs girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14782712411873234071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-77420734483306558682010-06-17T08:22:20.998+02:002010-06-17T08:22:20.998+02:00cherelli and danni took the words right out of my ...cherelli and danni took the words right out of my mouth, literally. i have had starry eyed friends ask me "do you believe in love at first sight?" and i always think "no. i believe in infatuation, sex, strong physical attraction between two people on their very best behavior at first sight". <br />lasting love, to me , is a couple that life has battered around a bit, a couple who has made sacrifices for each other, two people who have unintentionally or intentionally hurt each other - apologized - meant it - accepted it - moved on. if a couple has been through these trials and still stare lovingly into each other's eyes, even if it is less than they used to... that, to me, is real love.PiccolaPineConehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09520539255908849462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-42336782859738644062010-06-17T02:36:41.955+02:002010-06-17T02:36:41.955+02:00We have a "red thread" phrase in Russian...We have a "red thread" phrase in Russian. Something that goes through with you no matter what, and is very important to you. Yes, like running.<br />I understand staring into each other's eyes forever is a never-happen-idea. I guess I used it as a methaphor of still being passionate about each other. As someone who HAD been married for 18 years, and tried really hard to keep the flame going (and for the most part, come to think about it, it was going), I think what made it fall apart is exactly "not gazing enough". Now, I am no judge for anybody else's relationship. I just know once we lost it, we lost IT. And bringing it back was much more difficult than keeping it to begin with. I might have read way too many romantic books when I grew up (comes with the territory where I am from), but I need that. I need to hear admiration and adoration in a voice of a man I choose to love. Don't get me wrong, I am as independant as they get (just ask either of my husbands), and may be this is why it is hard to be all "cutsie" with me. But I do need the gazing.<br />And it doesn't take away from the fact that we are friends. And that we have same passion. And same goal in life. Or that we argue over who's turn it is to do laundry (and which way to do it). Or that everyday's life is getting so consuming, we may not think of each other for hours. But having both gobe through the marriages that didn't work out, we know that first and formmost, partnership is work. Not infatuation, but simply work. You have to be willing to gaze (if the other needs it), to send a text, to give a kiss, to smile when you're tired and angry...<br />Bottom line is, I didn't ask SR to be nousy. I asked as a retorical question. As in - nice to hear you are still human, and not running PR machines:)<br />And I am glad you answered...Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00493291972954387932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-84681545259195378682010-06-17T02:20:02.078+02:002010-06-17T02:20:02.078+02:00Wow. Touching post. I don't know much about lo...Wow. Touching post. I don't know much about longevity since I've only been married a little over 3 years. But I know how things have changed so quickly those three years. I don't know what my red thread is though. Traveling? (I don't do that anymore because we're dirt poor students LOL) <br /><br />I think not "gazing as often" into one another's eyes is a normal, albeit sucky, part of the evolution of marriage. It's good to have the good memories to remind you of what you once had. Take those and now make new ones. Hotter ones as cherelli said. :)Abbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03709207120243840223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-86133614374592573492010-06-17T02:05:26.450+02:002010-06-17T02:05:26.450+02:00I'm totally with Danni on this one. Sure I'...I'm totally with Danni on this one. Sure I've only 7 years of "marriage" behind me (ok we're common-in-law but it means the same to us) but our relationship seems to constantly shift and change. There was the honeymoon period where everything was wonderful (and sexy!), then the "move in together" and learn over time to not stress the small stuff (definitely a period of growth!), then there have been maybe 2 or 3 big "silence fights" over a couple of years whose resolutions have led to HUGE advances in our relationship, and the last couple of years have been more about supporting one anothers goals and looking forward to our future plans; when we realise we have shifts completely opposite for a few days we enjoy our solo time but when there's an opportunity for a meal or couple of hours to snatch together we'll usually just enjoy that time and take pleasure in it. I remember my Mum saying to an uncle about her and Dad after 20 years of marriage: "he's my best friend and we have the utmost respect for each other" and that's what I think good relationships evolve to - the hotter, longer- burning coals of a good fire rather than the spark that is quickly extinguished. Ha - what is it about romance and fire???!! Anyway, allow the evolution to occur, enjoy each others company when you can, but allow yourself to grow as "yourself" too. Anyways that my 2c worth from a mere 7 years!cherellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13643258879501877022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-81261458276377484632010-06-17T00:20:06.499+02:002010-06-17T00:20:06.499+02:00This might make me seem like a cranky old hag, but...This might make me seem like a cranky old hag, but the whole staring into each others' eyes thing seems tied to infatuation -- which happens early in any new flame regardless of its substance or endurance. In my experience, and based on my obervations of marriages that have stood the test of time, the flame burns brighter at first but over time burns hotter. People who think the butterfly feelings of the early infatuation phase should last forever are the people who think the grass is greener and leave their spouses (or have affairs), usually to learn that the cycle repeats itself. Love and companionship are about a whole lot more than staring lovingly into each others' eyes (gag).Dannihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02201053516148787578noreply@blogger.com